Every child has a father, right?

May 26, 2017
mothers

A few days ago, I spent a couple of hours in the waiting room of one of our admirable institutions to apply for the renewal of an identity document. I’d taken all the necessary measures to survive waiting in the line: first of all, I’d made sure to charge my mobile phone to avoid small talk with complete strangers. But even if you don’t participate in the unbelievably stupid conversations, you certainly have to overhear at least some parts here and there. Thankfully, my blood pressure is normally quite low, so I survived the surge when I heard what I couldn’t help overhearing.

In essence, the conversation between two males went more or less as follows:

The other day, while I was waiting in a line just like today, a woman came in with a small child and demanded to skip the line on account of the child.
No way!? Why didn’t she leave the child with the father?
I actually asked her the same thing. She said the kid had no father. Yeah right! Every child has a father!

I managed to keep my mouth shut. I was on the verge of telling them off, but I bit my tongue. The experience taught me it’s usually a good thing to do. But if I had decided to give them piece of my mind:

I would have told them that some women, either by choice or by chance, give birth to their children without the knowledge of their partners. Sometimes it’s just the way it has to be.

I would have told them that some children are simply abandoned by their fathers even before they are born. The so-called fathers usually keep the reasons for this to themselves.

I would have told them that many children indeed have fathers, but they couldn’t care less about their kids or about the mothers who bring them up on their own. And these women are often forced to do everything else almost without anyone’s help.

I would have told them that many children live with their mothers and see their fathers only when the fathers see it fit rather than when the children need it. These men usually provide no support nor do they take part in the children’s education and upbringing.

So, every child has a father, right?
A biological one, sure.
But the fact that these men provided only a genetic material for the creation of these wonderful beings, does not always mean they’re qualified to take proper care of them.

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2 Comments

  • Reply B May 26, 2017 at 7:16 pm

    Completely agree….i was married 8 years. I had a son from a previous marriage and that father hasn’t had any contact, nor does he pay any child support… my son will be 11, his “father” hasn’t seen him in over 8 years. Husband (now ex) of almost 8 years, 2 children with him, one has brain cancer. He decided he didn’t want to do it anymore, moved 11 hours away, states away and sees the children 3 times a year for a few hours for 1 day…. so no, every child does not have a father. I do everything for my children with only the help of my parents while the dad has a new girlfriend and talk of another baby…. at least my children will always know their mom loves them.

    • Reply MV May 26, 2017 at 8:46 pm

      You’re doing a great job and they are happy to have you, God bless you all. Don’t think about your ex anymore, it’s a waste of energy and you need it for your family.

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