Some time ago, I had a good laugh when I saw a cartoon of a mother squabbling with her daughter over her clothes. And then I read loads of related comments on the FB which made me realise that it is a real-life situation, the one I still haven’t faced, but that will inevitably come.
My daughter is very young and I’m still in charge. I understand, though, that the status quo won’t last forever. One mother complained that her daughter only wore leggings and hooded sweatshirts! Others struggle with teenagers changing their outfit several times before going to school. Me, I’m a disciplined person and I prepare each evening the clothes my child and I would wear the next day. The worst thing is to improvise in the morning when you’re in a hurry. For now, my attempts to keep my daughter’s fashion ideas under control have been successful. I don’t approve of kids having painted nails (actually, I’ve seen them on a 3-year old in her kindergarten) or wearing too much zazzy stuff. A plastic necklace, a bracelet or a ring is ok. But, no more than that. My daughter likes leggings because they’re comfy, but she prefers dresses. I don’t mind her wearing them when it’s warm, but in the winters it takes some special skills to explain to her that the cute little backless dress is not for snow (even if she puts on her boots and her warmest jacket).
I’m convinced that I’ll manage to stand my ground, at least for a while, except on special occasions, such as birthdays or mask balls.
As I’m rather inexperienced in this field, all your tips and comments will be much appreciated. Still, I don’t think a child should be under too much parental control when it comes to their clothing, as long as their choices are reasonable. Is setting a personal example the right way to go about it? I’m not sure my daughter will ever be too enthusiastic about my classical, no-nonsense taste in clothes. And that’s perfectly all right; I mean, each generation is supposed to be different from the previous one. I can only hope that the forthcoming battles over clothes won’t be too harsh.